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Some guys have asked me out, and it makes me feel uncomfortable because they aren't Christians, plus I don't want to date yet...My question is: can Christians date non-Christians as long as they don't marry them until they've become Christians?  |
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| Posted: Fri Aug 15, 2003 6:45 am |
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Very good question.
I believe that christians should not date non-christians. Dating a non-christian can open you up to the enemy with the un-Godly things that they can bring into your life. Wether it be music, books, pictures, and the influence of the world because you will want to do things with your boyfriend/girlfriend without being embarresed or to make you like a fool. Another thing is if you get emotionaly attached you won't want to leave that person.
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Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? 2 Corintians 6:14.............
Do not be deceived: "evil company corupts good habits." Awake to righteousness, and do not sin; for some do not have the knoledge of God. 1 Corinthians 15:33............... |
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| Posted: Fri Aug 15, 2003 9:31 am |
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Excellent answer Disciple4him! You hit the nail on the head by saying : | Quote: | | I believe that christians should not date non-christians. Dating a non-christian can open you up to the enemy with the un-Godly things that they can bring into your life. |
And thats exactly how it happens too. A while ago I began hanging out with certain people that weren't a very good influence on me at all. After a while, I started listening to the music they liked, I started talking how they talked, and I started to become very rebelous and had a bad attitude twords my parents, all because of the friends I chose to have. (I know that had nothing to do with boyfriend/girlfriend situations, but what can I say? I have never had a girlfriend before...  ) |
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| Posted: Fri Aug 15, 2003 1:30 pm |
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| Thanks you guys...you both gave really great answers and I'll read the verses you mentioned...You both made a lot of sense and were very helpful....just what this whole site it about |
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| Posted: Sat Aug 16, 2003 12:23 pm |
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One thing to add that I've seen personally.
I've seen a Christian and non-Christian date for awhile, because the Christian thought that the other person would change. Then when things started getting more serious (close to marriage), they would even tell the other person that they won't get married unless they are Christian...SO, the other person comes to church and eventually gets saved.
Then as soon as they're married, you never ever see that person in Church again, they just did it so that they could get married! But they never really believed anything.
Point being, that just like disciple said, people grow emotionally attached and make put themselves in situations they normally wouldn't have...so it's like playing with fire, why put yourself in that position? |
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| Posted: Sat Aug 16, 2003 12:31 pm |
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Good point...I remember watching this stoy on the 700 Club and it was where this Christian married a Muslim, even though she knew she shouldn't have...Ya, well when the woman saw the marriage license she saw that her husband had changed her religion  to Muslim, and then they went to another country to meet the guy's parents...Well, his wife thought he might want to stay there, so she made him promise w/his hand on the Koran, that he wouldn't make her stay there...Sure enough, he broke his promise  and held her captive there, but she did escape in the end ...Now she is positive, she'll only consider a Christian male as a possible husband. |
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| Posted: Sat Aug 16, 2003 1:23 pm |
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I think it's ok to date A non-christian...why not?....you could always try to make him/her christian!  thats what all of us want in everyone right? to be christian!.... |
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| Posted: Sat Aug 16, 2003 2:30 pm |
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| But what if the relationship goes to far & you want to marry that person even though they aren't a Christian, or they may claim to be a Christian so you'll marry them, and they end up backsliding? No one wants that to happen... |
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| Angelic Mary wrote: | | I think it's ok to date A non-christian...why not? |
Read what everyone said! lol
| Quote: | | ....you could always try to make him/her christian! thats what all of us want in everyone right? to be christian!.... |
Why do you need to go out with someone to testify to them?????? |
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| Posted: Sat Aug 16, 2003 2:44 pm |
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| I think dating a non-Christian is like grabbing a non-believer and telling them to be priest...They'll try to do want you want to make you happy, but in the end, they are totally clueless about God and things just won't work out! |
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| ughhhhhh I'm just trying to say lol that you can date whoever you want only if that person isn't like all over you and that you like him/her !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! lol... |
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| We understand what you are trying to say, and we disagree! lol Just read what people said more carefully, don't say "I think this is right" or "I think this is wrong" based on just what your own thoughts are, base it on what God has to say. |
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| Posted: Sat Aug 16, 2003 11:17 pm |
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Ya, really! It matters to God who you date/marry, so it's NOT something to take likely...I'm sure you won't find any Bible verses supporting your current opinion that it is okay to date/marry any non-Christians....Do you mind if I ask how long you've been a Christian? I'm not trying to sound rude or anything, I'm just curious. And it's perfectly okay if you don't want to tell me.  |
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| Posted: Sun Aug 17, 2003 4:48 am |
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| Angelic Mary wrote: | | ughhhhhh I'm just trying to say lol that you can date whoever you want only if that person isn't like all over you and that you like him/her !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! lol... |
How would that person being all over you matter in a relationship, when the issue at hand here is whether you should only date Christians? Besides, "being all over you" is better than not being a Christian, anyway...Do you agree? |
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| Posted: Sun Aug 17, 2003 8:17 am |
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well i can see the problem with dating a non christian, but i have to say when i started going out with my gal she wasnt christian, she was agnostic (well she believed in something other than herself) and had a leaning towards god, i got her to come to some youth groups and now shes turned round and is being saved...
my only hope is that it wasnt just for me...
so i guess if the person is fully against it its a bad idea, and if they dont really want to hear another opinion u shouldnt do it, but if their open to listen it should be alrite, but dont get into deep, no matter wat... |
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| Posted: Sun Aug 17, 2003 2:07 pm |
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| Ya, I kind of agree, but I also kind of disagree...I think that it's great that you were able to help your g/f and all, but I think it might've been better if maybe you tried to help her out as like "just a friend" and not a b/f...I'm glad things worked out for you, though! |
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| Posted: Mon Aug 18, 2003 10:33 pm |
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| Well everyone I've heard sharing advice on dating has told me that Missionary Dating (dating in hopes to bring someone to Christ) is a horrable idea and not to even try it. Reason being that you are more likely to fall away from Christ than you are to bring them to Christ. On the other hand if you do indeed get close to someone of a different faith or no faith at all you will definately run into problems. Because the core of what's must important to both of you are so different. |
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| Posted: Tue Aug 19, 2003 5:40 am |
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I'm not sure if anyone has ever seen this before or not, but...
Say one person stands on the top of a chair. This person is a Christian. Below them, on the ground, is their non-Christian boyfriend/girlfriend. It is much easier for the person on ground to pull the other off the chair, than it is for the one on the chair to bring the other up on the chair with them.
In other words: it is far more easier for the non-Christian partner to pull the other away from Christ than it is for the Christian to bring them to God.
Now of course, anything and everything is possible in the Lord! But the point remains.
Try it out!  |
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| Posted: Tue Aug 19, 2003 11:04 am |
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Sammy, you are sooo right and I love how you made the connection there...That's a cool story and I think I'll use it on some of my friends....they'll understand something like that over Biblical reasons, lol.  |
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| Posted: Wed Aug 20, 2003 5:49 pm |
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| I think it is very important that we should realize the situations we can be put in by dating a non-christian. God says we should not conform in the world. and what aaron said I agree with, when we date a non-christian there is a lot of preasure that we have to deal with and that can throw us off our walk with Christ. But God tells us to make the most of every oppurtunity to do good things. So that doesn't mean we can't be friends. we just need to be careful of what we are getting into. Who knows maybe you can lead that person to Christ. I guess the thing is God didn't tell us that we can't date the person, he never said that, so if you really want to know you should pray about it. Make sure that the person whom you are wanting to date really respects your beliefs, respects your wishes and concerns, and most of all respects you as a person. Otherwise he is not for you. But when it comes to marrying the person I don't agree with it at all, because your putting your life in his hands, and your submitting to him, So I don't find that to be a good thing. |
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