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| Mikalee |
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What do you guys think about it? I hear of so many people meeting their wives/husbands online. I even know someone personally that met his wife online and moved from here (Toronto, Canada) to Texas to live with her!
It sounds so crazy to me...but it's becoming so normal.
You guys think it's a good or not? Do you know people (including yourself) that've met other's online? How did it go? |
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| Posted: Sat May 24, 2003 2:36 pm |
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i think it has its positives...which leads to negatives..
advantages...[disadvantages]
- they won't judge you on looks ...[they might send a picture of someone else or a pic of when they were younger and after they meet there might be some...disagreements]
- you can be yourself and not be afraid to say things...[its wayy easier to talk to someone online than in person so once they meet they might have trouble communicating]...[i know *some* people that have a different personality online than real life]
- you can't see the bad side of them when they are online...[or their faults..its so easy to hide them when typing]
- you can choose when you want to talk to the other person (whenever you want to go online)...[what are you doing when you're not on? does the other person know about it?]
that's it for now... i think meeting people online is great for friendships... the question is can you really fall in love online? |
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| Posted: Sat May 24, 2003 7:54 pm |
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| tara_angel42 wrote: | | i know *some* people that have a different personality online than real life |
hahaha why would anyone be different on/offline??  |
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| Posted: Sat May 24, 2003 10:53 pm |
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: : i have no idea! many people are like that...  |
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| Posted: Sat May 24, 2003 11:31 pm |
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I have a friend who started dating someone they met online. it was a disaster!
Poor guy went through hell before he finally ended up dumping her. |
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| Posted: Thu May 29, 2003 1:50 pm |
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I'm not sure if it's related, but what are Pen Pals exactly?
I think it just means someone you send (e)mail to and vice versa, but I'm not sure. |
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| Posted: Thu May 29, 2003 3:15 pm |
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Ha ha....pen pals, eh?
Here's a story for you. When I was 9 or 10, I saw this commercial on Sesame Street where you could send a letter to a company and they'd match you up with someone else to become Pen Pals. Basically, it was a way for kids from different countries to start writing to each other, become friends, and learn from each other customs and stuff.
It was really just a friendship thing, since it matched you up with a member of the same sex with the same interests and stuff.
Well, sure enough, I got a Pen Pal, and the first thing he did was write a nice long letter to me pouring out his heart and asking all sort of questions.
Guess what? I lost his address before I got to reply to him. Even to this day I feel sorry for that poor schlep. |
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| Posted: Thu May 29, 2003 3:17 pm |
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Also, going to back to what tara_angel 42 said, yes, people can have very different personalities online.
Even I do act and sound different online to a certain extent. I think it has to do with the fact that you really can't see how people react to the things you say and do. |
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| Posted: Fri Oct 10, 2003 6:17 am |
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im marrying a man i first 'met' online... well we first started contact via email...
but we never started 'seeing each other' until we had met each other... but because we had got to know each other via email when we first met it was like we had known each other for ages and we hit it off right away...
for me i am much more confident online, but i had told him that! i was able to tell him things via email that i would not have been able to tell him face to face... but as time has gone along i have been able to tell him things and explain things to him f2f...
i guess it depends on the individual....
we love each other so thats all that matters...
but i guess our relationship is not 100% online...
i was talking to a bloke online years ago who told me he had fallen in love with me and we had never met... this is find strange...
i dont think u can love someone and know them properly until u have spent quality time 'TOGETHER' but again... we are all different!
but it does work!!!! |
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| Posted: Sat Oct 11, 2003 11:01 am |
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Just a little advice...don't date online! lol...I met this person in a chat room and we started talking back and forth, then he asked me to be his g/f and inside I was thinking "no way!" but I thought it would be funny to play along, so I said sure (hey, he lived half way across the US, lol)...Anyway, weeks went by, and his emails were about how much he "loved me" and stuff, and I was just cracking up! Then he said there was something I should know (cuz he thought I had feelings for him, when really I was just messin around)...Then he said that he was really a lesbian (I had helped "him" break up w/"his" g/f, too!) and SHE wanted a relationship w/me! Wow! Talk about a joke on ME!!!  ...Just so you know, I blocked her and then changed my email address! lol.... |
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| Posted: Sat Oct 11, 2003 2:24 pm |
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im sorry to say this but i think u were wrong to string this person along and play with their feelings...
i think anyone who does that is quite cruel!
people feelings are not to be played with.... its not a game!
i think to tell people not to date online is wrong...
none of us are an authority on this...
im not saying ur opinion is not valid as it is... but so is mine... it has worked for me... |
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| Posted: Sat Oct 11, 2003 2:46 pm |
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| I think that it does work out sometimes, but personally I think meeting people in person would work out better...I'm not saying either way is wrong, though...And yes, I know I shouldn't have fooled that person, but it was before I was a Christian, and I'm not a cruel person...SHE was being nice either! lol |
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| Posted: Mon Nov 17, 2003 12:47 am |
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Ok, I have had a bit of experiance with this and i believe that it is a BAD idea to start a relationship (as more than friends) online. Lyds, I have no problem with the way you did things, since you didnt start "dating" till after you met in person. Online you can be whoever you want. I know for a fact that i am more out going online. It isnt as "intimate" to be romantic with someone online, as it is to be romantic in person. Online, I could say something that id never be able to say in person. In my oppinion if you cant say something in person your not ready to say it, therefore if you cant say something that has to do with a mature "dating" relationship (like telling someone how you feel about them, and talking about having a healthy relationship, and "intimate" (when I say intimate im not meaning "sexual," im meaning very personal) things) in person, your not ready, or mature enough, for a relationship. I, until very recently, was not ready for a relationship, becuase i couldnt talk about such things in person. So my relationship with my gf now is very different than any other relationship ive had with a girl, becuase im doing things in person and for the first time... "Maturely"
I dont mean to offend anyone... i just want to give my views. However, I probably would have been slightly offended by a post like this a while ago.
Matt
Im adding this to say that this is for younger people under the age of 18, and not directed towards adults. |
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| Posted: Mon Nov 17, 2003 10:06 am |
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| I would never date someone on line, but I don't see where I could not meet the one for me on line, I just wouldn't consider dating until I met her in person. |
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| Posted: Sat Nov 22, 2003 12:29 am |
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hey i need help with online dating like wen i ever get online i always meet a girl and i dont know who or wat is on the other side so pleaze if u can help me just email me @ jsw007us@yahoo.com or u can im me @ Disturbed1989 08 thanx
jesse |
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| Posted: Sat Nov 22, 2003 4:59 am |
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| Kutless2008 wrote: | | hey i need help with online dating like wen i ever get online i always meet a girl and i dont know who or wat is on the other side |
if you are worried the person is not geniune then cut ties from them... pray to GOD to ask what to do. but remember you have to protect yourself. you might worry that the other person might not like your decision but i think in situations like this we need to be selfish!
ive got LOADS of friends online... but i would not consider starting a relationship with someone until i had met them in person... but i do think that online is a good way to get to know someone... im more confident online than in person and i dont think that is a bad thing! but everyone is different... [just mho] |
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| Posted: Fri Dec 12, 2003 12:31 am |
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What if you know the person, as in you've met personally, and you know that person's personality and stuff, but most of your correspondence is online?
I'm kinda in one right now, so yeah...Plus, she's only semi-Christian (which is something I found out just recently). |
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| Posted: Fri Dec 12, 2003 5:27 am |
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| dameantheultimate wrote: | What if you know the person, as in you've met personally, and you know that person's personality and stuff, but most of your correspondence is online?
I'm kinda in one right now, so yeah...Plus, she's only semi-Christian (which is something I found out just recently). |
alot of mine and davids correspondance is online as he works in the middle of the desert for 6 weeks at a time... and i dont think its a problem at all... if you know the person f2f then i dont see a problem at all...
as for the semi christian thing, again thats like me and david, i personally think its ok but i know alot of people on here dont, it is your choice, pray about it and ask GOD for guidance... i met david when i was along way from GOD and i beleive david brought me back to him and GOD wants me to continue to be with him, other people say i should not be with him... you have to do whatis right in your heart |
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| Posted: Fri Dec 12, 2003 8:30 am |
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Thanks lyds. I don't know. I think if i follow my heart, I'd be pretty free with her. its just that she isn't a full CHristian. Her love for God is genuine, but her doctrinal beliefs seem somewhat twisted.
My Christian friends say its kinda wrong, in addition to the fact that this relationship began online. I do pray to God about it everyday, but I'm still not sure... Could someone give me some advice on this? Is the fact that I'm not sure a reason to go away?... |
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| Posted: Fri Dec 12, 2003 8:38 am |
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in my opinion the fact you are not sure is a reason to stay!
in what way are the doctrines twisted????
i think this forum shows that lots of christians see things differently... it doesnt make one christian less than another...
if she loves GOD and she beleives Jesus is her one true saviour then what is wrong?
what makes you unsure... i think that is the question... for what reasons do you not want to be with her... and do the reasons you do want to be with her out weigh the others? life is about a balancing act... if it was easy it would be boring... |
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