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What makes me unsure... For the first thing, it would probably be how I came to know her. I've done/said some pretty stupid things towards her, and I think she doubts me. The thing is, I love her, but she doesn't return that feeling to me. Its more a "like"(strong crush) feeling. For another thing, she believes in Jesus and the miracles he did, but doesn't understand how he was born (i.e.: Mary being a virgin and all that).
Perhaps its my fault for getting into it too fast. I guess I made too many assumptions. The thing is I love her, but as some of my friends have said, its not a completely Christ-centred thing. I don't know. Plus the fact that its almost entirely online makes it pretty hard. Maybe that's what I'm so unsure about. What my actions will be, or what they may cause... I certainly hope it isn't negative. |
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| Ah well, it ended anyways. Apparently, she wasn't Christian, in the true sense. God could never have been in the centre. I certainly hope she comes to realize His love though. |
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You know what's really annoying? I had this whole long post all about online dating, but when I tried to submit it an "Invalid Session" screen came up. What the heck, dude? Guess I'll have to take the time to do it again later. *Sigh*  |
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| Posted: Wed Dec 17, 2003 8:56 am |
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Keep trying  I really love your opinions. As well, I'd really like to have some idea as to what would happen SHOULD something like this come up, or if I were advising my friends (at least 2 of whom are involved in something similar).
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All right...I'll find some time to write it out again later.  |
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Okey-dokey, here I go again...hopefully it works this time. And hopefully I can remember all I had written last time... 
Well, the only serious relationship I've ever had actually "kind of" started online. I'd met the guy twice (w/ about a year in-between each time) and then I got his email address and we started writing back and forth. We really got to know each other through emails; we totally knew all about one another before we ever really hung out. Then we began to see each other and hang out and got together and all that.
Anyway, with this said, I believe that this was COMPLETELY different than just randomly meeting someone online and "hooking-up" or whatever you wanna call it. I was really good friends with his best friend and so I knew what kind of a person he was before I started any type of relationship with him. If you just go online and meet someone, how can you know that they're really who they say they are?
I believe that creating friendships online is a wonderful experience. It's nice to meet people from all over, especially other young Christians. Like on this website. It's a good way to develop our communication skills and expand our vocabulary through writing. But when you become friends with people online, that's very different from wanting to "date" someone online. When you just want to be friends, you will almost always be yourself. Because you genuinely want to know the other person and want them to know you. Friendship is pure, without either person wanting to "get something" out of the relationship...except a friend. But if you are seeking a dating relationship, you will almost automatically put up a facade of how you wish you really were. We must all admit that there are at least some things we'd change about ourselves if we could. Once a person puts up this false front, there is no getting to know them. So the person you are "interested" in will never really know who you are. And most likely it'll be the same the other way around. You will be creating for yourself a fantasy-land. You will only get your hopes up and may get badly hurt. You could also get yourself into trouble if you ever decide to actually meet the person and they turn out to be psychotic. It does happen! My dad had a co-worker who met a girl online and later flew out to where she lived so they could meet. She was totally wacked and he spent a week trying to escape her. No one wants this to happen to himself. I hope. Anyway, I think it's completely crazy to go online in search of a romantic relationship.
BUT I do believe that romantic relationships could indirectly start online. God can use any means of communication to draw people together. I am sure there have been and will be times when two people become friends online and somehow get to the point where they are able to meet and develop a relationship. If we truly follow God with all our hearts, He'll show us His will. And who knows? For someone His will may be to meet their future spouse online. It all really just boils down to obedience and trust.
So, in conclusion, do not go online seeking romance!!! You WILL get hurt!! Or you'll just be wasting your time...but whatever comes out of it, it will not be good if you begin any online relationship with the intent of romance. Seek friendship. And friendship only! Not friendship to later be turned into romance!
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How true. Thanks HME.
Anyone who SEEKS a relationship online would be in a situation, i suppose. but I guess you're right about the indirect route. It happened to me too. I guess you have to meet the person, and talk to him/her, in order to prove to yourself that its not a lie. everytime I talk to someone online, i've got this mentality that whatever they say may be false. Heck, sometimes I think I spend too much time online and start thinking the same thing about reality, questioning things that my best friends or even my parents say  .
Anyways, I still think although online is a simple way to communicate, it has way too many risks in comparison to meeting the person or even having a phone conversation.
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I think that talking online is just nother way of communicating, and you can face the same problems as when you talk on the phone or in person. Most of my friends regularly would pretend they are older, in order to meet some older guys (to date), so I know that if you don't know the person personally you have no proof at all of whether or not they are who they say they are.
I don't think there is any problem with talking to someone online who you have already met in real life, as you should know them well enough that there are no pretences. |
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| Yes, but some element of personal correspondence is necessary for me to get trust. Otherwise I appear rather cold and unfriendly. Oh yeah, online is also a poor ground for displaying emotions (emoticons don't count), and if displayed in a fake sense, can be read wrong or can decieve the reciever. |
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i just wanted to bring this topic back up again to warn people of pure online dating...
my friend has just found out that her ex b/f who she was seeing 'online' for 20 months was not real... and neither was a 'friend'... it was girl pretending to be both and she has dupped 2 people into online relationships... with fictional people!!!!
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| Posted: Mon Mar 15, 2004 6:05 pm |
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| ok i think online dating is stupid and wrong u dont know whos one the other side it could be some old perverted 77 year old man u never know |
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I don't think I really like the idea of online dating.
I mean, I have people from on-line that I actually don't know, but I don't want to go out with them or anything.
I was doing my devotions the other night, and I was thinking about this one guy. Not that I like him or anything, but he is an awesome person to talk to and it seems like you can really talk with him, and its nice to hear a guys view of things. We started talking on a christian forum chat. Anyways, not the point. I was reading my devotions of the day which told a story all about how these two people became friends, and were the greatest friends and they never met. I don't know it was just really neat.
But I most likely would never date someone online. It freaks me out just thinking about it. So many things could go wrong and I mean, you never really truely know the person.
I would much rather meet the person here and go from there
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I have always heard bad things about online dating. Anything could happen if choose to meet that person. You could be killed, raped, or beaten and left to die. I don't trust online ortelephone dating services.  |
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| yea i agree its not all that safe |
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| lyds wrote: | i just wanted to bring this topic back up again to warn people of pure online dating...
my friend has just found out that her ex b/f who she was seeing 'online' for 20 months was not real... and neither was a 'friend'... it was girl pretending to be both and she has dupped 2 people into online relationships... with fictional people!!!!
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20 months!!!!!!!
1) That's a long time to "see someone" online and never meet them. 
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| fat_kid_luv_cake wrote: | | ok i think online dating is stupid and wrong u dont know whos one the other side it could be some old perverted 77 year old man u never know |
Be careful, Fatty (can I call you that?). 
My dad also says this about my online friendships w/ guys. 
Even though it COULD be true, I find it hard to believe when I can tell the guys aren't trying to be smooth and "play" me.
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| He'sMyEverything wrote: | | lyds wrote: | i just wanted to bring this topic back up again to warn people of pure online dating...
my friend has just found out that her ex b/f who she was seeing 'online' for 20 months was not real... and neither was a 'friend'... it was girl pretending to be both and she has dupped 2 people into online relationships... with fictional people!!!!
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1) That's a long time to "see someone" online and never meet them.
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i know... she told us all she had met him to make us all beleive ok... but im in shock!!!
but shes called this 'bloke' who was actually a woman and u know she had had cyber sex and phone sex with 'him' and everything... i didnt know what to say to her last night... id been warning her for ages and was well dubious when she first started talking about it, but cos she had told me they had met i left her to it... but i guess thats why she told me they had met!
this woman who pretending to me my mates online b/f and a friend as well! and the friend was seeing someone else as well and her whole world has just come crashing down around her cos the person she thought she loved is not real!
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| lyds wrote: | | He'sMyEverything wrote: | | lyds wrote: | i just wanted to bring this topic back up again to warn people of pure online dating...
my friend has just found out that her ex b/f who she was seeing 'online' for 20 months was not real... and neither was a 'friend'... it was girl pretending to be both and she has dupped 2 people into online relationships... with fictional people!!!!
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20 months!!!!!!!
1) That's a long time to "see someone" online and never meet them.
2) That's a long time to lead someone on. |
i know... she told us all she had met him to make us all beleive ok... but im in shock!!!
but shes called this 'bloke' who was actually a woman and u know she had had cyber sex and phone sex with 'him' and everything... i didnt know what to say to her last night... id been warning her for ages and was well dubious when she first started talking about it, but cos she had told me they had met i left her to it... but i guess thats why she told me they had met!
this woman who pretending to me my mates online b/f and a friend as well! and the friend was seeing someone else as well and her whole world has just come crashing down around her cos the person she thought she loved is not real!
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